What is a relationship really suppose to consist of? Love, friendship, trust, communication, passion, patience, sex? Take a second and ask yourself if these are all it takes to be in a lasting relationship. This is not something that is taken into consideration to think about on a daily basis, but ever since I have moved to Utah I have seen or heard about more people getting married than I have seen in my whole life.
What makes me bring the subject up is that most of the people are somewhere around my age. Now all of the points that I stated above are the bulk of what it takes to maintain a lasting relationship, and i know because I'm in one myself and all those points apply to me, but marriage is just not in my mind at this time. On top of those points I believe that there is on more point that may be the one to make or break the relationship. "TIME" is the point that I'm talking about ladies and gentlemen.
Yes "TIME," and the reason being is because TIME will allow you to gather more info about that person to help you truly decide whether or not this is who you want to be with FOREVER!! While in that dating process always remember that there is no time limit you have to date until the marriage step presents itself. Take that TIME and move in together first, learn each others tendencies so you can know what you don't like about them. Use TIME to figure out how they act around other people when they are not with you. Give each others families TIME to really get to know them, because no matter what anybody says the family does take an affect on whether the relationship will go on or not.
I ain't trying to tell nobody how to live there live, and I don't know if this early marriage shit just happens this often in Utah but listen when I say that the earlier you get married, the shorter your marriage will probably be. Wait and think about it before you pop that question, I promise the longer you date a person the better your marriage will be when that time comes to make that move. relationships and marriage are things that you want to charish for life but they can be cut short if taken too fast or gone about in the wrong way.
TIME will make it work, thats the key!!
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